Wednesday, September 25, 2013

Wonderful Blessing

Soft skin, innocent look, wonderful smile, and curly hair. Indeed a  wonderful presents of our GOD. From the moment she moved inside my womb, she gives me a roller coaster emotion. I have sad days and happy days, sometimes I can't explain, well for all mom out there I know  they already know what I am talking about.

Childbearing is a journey. Journey where you can know more about your self and people surround you. But being a mother is different. New priorities, new time management, new life perspectives.  It is true when the child is born the mother is also born.   Help me GOD in my journey.

Friday, November 16, 2012

Life is Ups and Downs, But Don't Give up..


I read this article is one magazine in our Library.. :) Enjoy Reading!



No one enters a serious romantic relationship anticipating a breakup, but it can happen. And no relationship is immune; Breaking up with someone you deeply care about can mean a bitter fall from the heights of joy to the depths rejection. Dreams can turn to nightmares and desires drown to depression. However, a broken heart need not leave you in pieces. When your relationship is on the rocks, here’s how to keep yourself together.

1. Don’t fall apart, Instead, take a deep breath.
            Smile, even though faintly, and calmly say, “I’m sorry you feel this way, I was hoping our relationship would be a long-term one. But I respect you too much to try to force you to love me. I hope we can remain friends, but most important thing is to allow God to lead us and hopefully pave the way for continuing friendship, even though it’s not a growing one. You don’t have to part enemies.

2. Don’t do something foolish.
            A breakup is not the end of the world, regardless of your pain. The feelings of rejection are temporary. Don’t do something impulsive that may alter your life significantly.
            Unconsciously you may feel that if you do something traumatic, your ex will feel sorry for you and a comeback. This seldom happens. Instead, your foolish actions are message to the person that your are unstable and that the breakup was probably a good idea.

3. Don’t turn bitter and try to get back at the person who has rejected you with, what I call psychological murder.
            Words said at the time of breakup can be deadly. No matter how hurt and angry you may be because of the way you have been treated, if you say hateful things and assassinate his or her character, it’s almost impossible to resurrect a friendship. Remember, vengeful feelings and actions have a tendency to boomerang, and you may end up being the person hurt most deeply.

4. Don’t Beg.
            “Oh John, I just can’t live without you. Your mean everything to me. Please, let’s try again. Please! Please! Please!... If  that’s your attitude the other person may end up going to great lengths to avoid you and the guilt feelings you have caused hin or her to experience. No matter what you think, you can live without that person. You may not feel that you can- but you can! Keep telling yourself that.

5. Don’t isolate yourself after a breakup.
            When you’re hurting, you need friends who will support you. Allow yourself your friends to comfort you and to be a sounding board for your feelings. Rejection makes you want to hide rather that socialize with others who may ask questions or feel sorry for you.
            You may want to spend time alone to sort out your feelings, but as soon as possible, get back into society. Do things that you enjoy. Keep busy. Set new goals and move decisively in that direction, step out and get involve in healing others. Healing will come much more quickly this way.

6. Don’t be ashamed to grieve over your loss.
            The more serious your relationship, the more painful a breakup will be and the more will need time to grieve. During this time you may go through four different stages. At first you may deny that the breakup is actually happening. “He just infatuated with this other girl and will return to me.” or “It’s just her time to the month. In a week or so things will be OK.”
            As it begins to dawn upon you that this breakup is real, you may experience anger toward the person. Here’s where you have to guard yourself carefully so you don’t act out your angry feelings in an attempt to get back at that person.
            The third stage is not to blame yourself for what has happened. “If only..” you may need to discuss your feelings with others so they can help you sort out the reality of the situation from your irrational thoughts. Talk about what you did or didn’t do to cause the break up. Don’t blame yourself unnecessarily; this will only add feelings of guilt to your load of grief.
            Finally, true grief takes over when you realize and accept your breakup. Probably the best thing you can do when the full impact hits is to have a good long cry. Sob your heart out. It will help. It really will.
            During this grieving period  you can find comfort in the Scriptures. See if it isn’t a comfortable to read such passages a Psalm 23, 27, and 121. And remember, “the LORD is near to those who  have broken heart” (Psalm 43:18 NIV).

7. Don’t jump immediately into another relationship.
            You need time to heal. The more serious your relationship, the more time you’ll need. You may be very vulnerable during this period. Because you are used to being close to another person, you may now crave loneliness.

8. Don’t punish yourself.
            Rejection causes feelings of self-doubt and sometimes self-hate. Don’t fall into the trap of equating your value to whether or not you can hold relationship together. Accept God’s value. Because He made you and died for you. Your are of supreme value to Him. To help you over this period of self-blame, you may have to practice some positive self-talk. Remind yourself of all your good qualities.

9. Treat the other person kindly.
             There is good counsel in the proverb that says, “If your enemy is hungry, give him food! If he is thirsty, give him something to drink. This will make him feel ashamed of himself, and God will reward you” (Proverbs 22: 21-22. Why no do the unexpected and say something nice about the other person? I have feeling it will surprise him or her, and you will probably find your feelings of rejection will heal faster when bathed in a positive spirit.

10. Don’t give up on God.
            Now is the time to lean on Him. Let His Spirit talk to you and minister to your needs. By now you maybe thinking, I could never react on breakup in a manner that is so cool, calm, and collected. I could never react with such understanding. That’s because most of us allow our feelings to dictate our actions.  Breaking up cause’s feelings of guilt, alienation, rejection and revenge. Too often, without realizing it, we react negatively. God’s way is the opposite. As Paul the apostles says: “So be careful how you act; these are difficult days. Don’t be fools; be wise; the most of every opportunity you have for doing good. Don’t act thoughtlessly, but wants you to” Ephesians 5:15-17

Wednesday, September 26, 2012

When You Don't Know what's Going On...

TRUST HIS HEART
By: BABBIE MASON

All things work for our good
Though sometimes we don't see how they could
Struggles that break our hearts in two
Sometimes blind us to the truth


Our Father knows what best for us
His ways are not our own
So when your pathway grows dim
And you just don't see Him
 Remember you're never alone

God is too wise to be mistaken
God is too good to be unkind
So when you don't understand
When you don't see His plan
When you can't trace His hand

Trust His heart
Trust His heart

He sees the master plan
And He holds our future in His hand
So don't live as those who have no hope
All our hope is found in Him

We see the present clearly
But He sees the first and the last
And like a tapestry He's weaving you and me
To someday be just like Him

God is too wise to be mistaken
God is too good to be unkind
So when you don't understand
When you don't see His plan
When you can't trace His hand


Trust His heart
Trust His heart

He alone is faithful and true
He alone knows what is best for you

God is too wise to be mistaken
God is too good to be unkind
So when you don't understand
When you don't see His plan
When you can't trace His hand


Trust His heart
Trust His heart


When you don't understand
When you don't see His plan
When you can't trace His hand


Trust His heart
Trust His heart

Monday, May 11, 2009

The Reality

People are often unreasonable and illogical, and self-centered
(forgive them anyway)


If you are kind people may accuse you of being selfish and having ulterior motives
( Be kind anyway)


If you are successful you will win some false friends and some true enemies
(succeed anyway)


If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you
( Be honest and frank anyway)


If you find serenity and happiness, they maybe jealous
(Be Happy anyway)


The good you do today, people often forget tomorrow
(Do good anyway)

Give the world the best way you have, and maybe it never be enough
(give the best way you have anyway)


You see in the final analysis it’s between You and GOD
(it was never been with you and them anyway)

Life is?

* Life is a continuous challenge, a constant struggle from womb to tomb. We are not made rich by what is in our pockets, but by what is in our hearts.

* A happy heart is a good medicine & a positive mind works healing. In your busy sched, don't forget to smile and have a good laugh because it adds color to your life.

* Keep working with a good heart. You are worth not for what you have. Not even for who you are. But for what others have become because of you.

* Live fully, have fun. Be crazy, be weird, go out & screw up! Don't try to be perfect. Just be an excellent example of being human. Enjoy life.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Some Rules in Life

Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

When you say, "I love you," mean it.

When you say, "I'm sorry," look the person in the eye.

Never laugh at anyone's dream. People who don't have dreams don'thave much.
Love deeply, and passionately.

You might get hurt but it's the onlyway to live life completely.

In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, theirconversational skills will be as important as any other.

Don't judge people by their relatives.

Talk slowly but think quickly.

When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smileand ask, "Why do you want to know?"

Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

When you lose, don't lose the lesson.